There is a guy i know here who is very good friends with a mate of mine. I end up hanging out with him alot when i’m beering with my mate or bumping into him on nights out in saigon. If u saw him u would find it difficult to look away coz he is one damn good looking guy.
Tall, built, eurasian, with an irresistable cheeky boy grin.Whilst i freely admit i don’t know him ‘that’ well, my perception of him is that he is a bit of a player. He is gorgeous and he knows it and will work it to his advantage. I know from seeing him around the last 2 years and from hearing stories that he has had his fair share of fun in vietnam. 
He leaves a trail of ex-girlfriends everywhere he goes. Most of the time when i see him he is out with his crew, all standing out in a crowd and looking way too cool in their trendy clothes. A swarm of hot chicks will inevitably surround them (and he of course only goes out with the hottest of the hot).
In the past week or 2 for some reason i have been spending more time than usual with this guy, his crew and my mate. I got to know him a bit better, yet i still was in utter disbelief when he informed me quite calmly - that he is getting married. This guy settling down?! No way! It took a few more nights out before i fully believed him. Yesterday he told us all he’d bought the ring. It was really happening. So who was the lucky lass? An overseas vietnamese girl who came to saigon every so often to see family.
He had met her a year ago, but only started seeing her properly on one of her recent visits. How long had they been together? 2 months.Surely he couldn’t be serious! How could 2 months with a girl be enough to convince him to give up his fun-loving ways and right to singledom? But alas, it would seem it is. He is flying overseas on friday to ask her parents and surprise her with the ring.Because i found it so hard to believe i asked him why he was doing it. His response was that he had been with enough girls to know what he wanted, and this girl was it. He was also approaching 30 and felt like it was about time.Was that it!? It sounded so simple.
If u were a girl and wanted an eligible bachelor who was highly in demand, did u just have to meet him at the right time, when he’d gone out with all the girls he wanted to be with and was at the age to settle? Was 2 months really enough to tame this guy who knew he could have any girl in town? Is it just about being in the right place at the right time? I really don’t know.All i know is that in 2 days time one of the hottest guys i know in saigon is going to be off the market. It is going to be a major tragedy…
Today’s question is:How to tame a “player” and keep his shoes under your bed exclusively?
Interesting question. Ok the first thing that you need to know about players are that they love the challenge of pursuing you. On the other hand, those of us who love players tend to love the challenge of trying to keep them. If this is the type of guy that you want, know going in that you will have to work three times as hard to keep his interest.From the beginning you must be elusive.
Baring all of your cards or all of anything else too early is a sure way to have him hopping into someone else’s bed. You must be diligent in your grooming, mannerisms and in the way you respond to him. This is a continual cat and mouse game. You must also strike a balance between playing hard to pin down and too high maintanance to bother with.Other women will be attracted to his elusiveness, as well.
How can i tame a player?
Well:He is a bit of a playerHe is attracted to me.I am attracted to himbut....I dont want a short relationship, well ive been chatting/flirting with him for a couple of weeks now and we planning to go out and do something this weekI really want to know if theres anything i can do to make this relationship last, at least a little while. I really like him.Any ideas anyone?
There is a right person for everyone of us it is not all about taming a player but understanding him as a person.If a player won't leave his previous ways when you are already in a commited relationship it just means one thing ;he is not contented with you & you are not the one for him.So ,better let him go... so he can find what he is looking for.It doesn't matter if he is a player or not even someone who is not a player can cheat.It is all about the love & respect for the person.If you truly respect someone you love you won't do things that would hurt that person not bec. she commanded you but bec. of your own will.
If a man betrays you that means you are not fit for him .That there is something he is looking for that is missing in you.Remember players are still humans who have a heart its just that they aren't still come to the realization of what they are missing.What makes a player is tolerance!If there no women who wold tolerate a player they won't exist.If you are able to encounter a player & fall for him just let him know that you love him & he is someone special,if it doesn't work out it just means that you are not meant to be together.
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Oh hun, please be careful, you generally cant change a player, they need to change themselves. Dont wear your heart on your sleve babe, be honest and realistic, enjoy your time with this player but be careful, sometimes not all that glitters is gold. I wish you all you wish yourself. x
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You don't. Once a hoe, lol always one! I run from those types of guys!
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Wow popular question and most people have a pretty intense opinion about it...But I think that you should go for it. It doesn't matter what you say to him. In fact I would NOT lay down ultimatums and so on and so on. Just be yourself and let it take its course. If he respects and loves you then he won't fool around on you. BUT you have to end it if he does. Thats the only way you'll get through it with your dignity intact.Good luck!
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just be u and no worry about what he want ( where u put ur self u find ur self)
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let him know you dont want this to be a 2 week relattionship
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This relationship is already doomed.Wanting to tame someone is not a basis of a relationship. You tame pets if you want this person for that reason then go for it
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Don't give have sex with him until+6months.The reason why so many men cheat on women because we make it too easy for them.Play hard to get BUT not too hard.He's got to know your worth fighting for and staying faithful too because you can satisfy all his needs.Men like a challenge
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All I can say is what my aunt told me years ago. If it looks like a snake, walks like a snake, talks like a snake; it is a snake, it will act like a snake and try to attack you, bite you, and kill you - no matter how cute it is and how he hypomtizes you with his cunning ways and beautiful skin.I will tell you what you already know, you can not tame a player. No matter what he says, how he wraps you n\under his spell, girl there is terror at the end. Put your Addidas on and run girl - run!!!! Run as fast as you can, and find a real man. One that will make you happy and keep you happy.You know I speak the truth
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Forget it. He will tell you what you want to hear as long as it amuses him. When he gets bored, or someone else catches his eye, he will leave you in a heartbeat, and with no explanation.
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He will deceide when he is done playing. He has to want to settle into something. If you force it, he will run away. Lay back and be patient. This guy may be right but it may take time for him to see the value in continuing a relationship with you. If you are his dream girl, then you will know in enough time. Be easy and be yourself. Above all, be honest and true. He will appreciate that and then if you tell no lies, you will have nothing to remember!Good luck.
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Just take away his favourite toy...
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You cannot tame a player. You would be best suited to move on and find someone else.
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Sure, once you start a relationship..Tell him in no uncertain terms...straight up, thatyou will tolerate absolutely no cheating..You are not a cheater yourself and you willnot be in a relationship with anyone who is...
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you can't. the guy can only change when he wants to. thats how it will last. you may think you changed him, but until its what he wants, its only a matter of time before he goes back to his old ways.
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Unless you just want a bit of fun with him, I wouldn't even bother trying to tame a player - you can't.....
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You can't tame anyone or thing unless they want to be tamed... And if you have had to "tame" this other person, it could ruin your relationship if it does last... they'll blame you if it goes south... The best thing to do, if you really like this guy, is go out with him, have fun... don't give him what he wants right away...that way he'll have to stick around and get to know you before he gets it... then if you're really a good match, he'll know it...you'll know it...and hopefully it'll work out :D Good Luck!
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You can't do anything. He's a player, and that's the end of that. It's probably best to just steer clear of him, too, because players are obviously extremely good liars and probably could easily make you believe he'll give up his ways just for you.You don't get involved with people with the agenda to change them. This is who he is.
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once a player always a player....i know a guy who is a player and has been all his life he is 48 now and still a player...and he is married and has five kids dotted around...stay well clear unless you can handle him...but when he is out you will always be wondering were he is....and that does your head in...so if you can handle it....go for it....good luck.....
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BELIEVE me when i tell you its hard work ! and it aint really worth the heartache !
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You will never change a player, he will calm down in his own time. On saying this some never change
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You can't tame him....if he likes you as much as you like him it'll work out....good luck
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You cant, once a player, always a player
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It's almost impossible to stop a ladies man from flirting and checking out other girls, so I would put down all aspirations of a meaningful relationship, at first anyway. Flirt and make yourself available to other guys. The fact that you're less attainable will make him try and work harder to win your attention. Also, always make sure you appear "busy"-don't appear to always be available. For example, when scheduling a date, if he asks if a you're free a certain time(perhaps Sunday lunch), say you have something on, and ask if another time is ok(eg, Wednesday dinner).
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you can't
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Well my friend just hung on in there with him after acouple of years they moved in together and now they have been together for 6 years and he gave her a commitment ring but most of all you need good luck
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I don't think you can tame him. The only person who can do that is himself, if he really does like you and doesn't want to hurt you then he will change. If you really think that he will mess you about then stay clear.Good luck
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Rrrrr... A player always know the right way to a woman's heart. He has the key to your heart and he has opened it. What a great guy.You want it to last? Easy. He has to like you first. Be a challenge to him & let him chase you. If he ignored you then most likely he doesn't like you. He just playing around and just wanna have fun.Can you melt a player's heart? I challenge you.
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you cant tame a player my dear. =Pwell.. to give him the benefit of the doubt, he might be serious abt you. tell him that you dont want a two week relationship.If things dont work out, just have fun and enjoy yourself. Im sure you won't have a lack of suitors out there.
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Sounds like you have your eyes open.If he is a player, a player is a player - chances are he won't change. But, maybe there is another side he has hidden away who is not a player and wants the real thing. How do you know? My advice, if you know his past record is that of a player, take it very slowly. If he is going to change, it will be because he realises he has to change to be with you. If he doesn't change, then at least you haven't given too much away.
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