Thursday, June 19, 2008

"A Faithful Player,Impossible?Possible"

How to Get a Player to Commit

If you find yourself falling for a player, you have to play him a bit to get him to commit to you and you alone. Follow these tips to beat him at his own game.

Step1Determine if your love interest is truly a player. Does he make eye contact with your body rather than your eyes? Does he want to meet late at night at the last-minute? Does he speak with sexual overtones? Does he act secretive about his time spent away from you? If you can answer yes to any of these questions, then you are probably dating a player who you will have to convince to commit.

Step2Talk openly to him without accusing. Let him know that you like him and are interested in a monogamous relationship with him. Ask him how he feels about changing your relationship status. Watch him carefully for his reaction. What he doesn't say is as important as what he says.

Step3Determine what level of commitment you are comfortable with. It is unlikely you will turn a player into a family man overnight. If it is enough for you that he is sexually committed only to you, then you might have a chance to convince him over time of the positive pay off for being your one and only. However, you may have to put up with flirting, texting and ogling of other women, even when you are in his presence. This can be difficult to deal with for a woman wanting a commitment.

Step4Show him the benefits. If you want to tame a player, you have to be willing to make up for the lost excitement and thrill of playing at home. Be available to him. Entice him with lingerie and racy voice mails. Make yourself into what he is looking for and he might just stick around.

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